What’s your story? (…and why is it so important?)


I’m not talking about the drama you’re currently going through.

Not your relationships, job, or hobby. Not the roles you play, and not the beliefs you use to define you. Not your bank account, or zip code.

Your story goes deeper.

You can find it like a gold thread that runs through your life, weaving the disparate pieces together into a beautiful pattern; one that reveals who you are underneath your circumstances, dramas, beliefs, and seasons.

Because when it comes right down to it, when you don’t know who you are, you spend a boatload of energy trying to be something else. And that’s exhausting.

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Energy Tools to Thrive This Holiday Season

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On last week’s podcast we talked about how Journey into Being is about coming home to ourselves. We talked about how fast paced life can be, especially during the holidays.  One of the tips Elizabeth shared was to make sure to prioritize time for yourself. This is particularly important for an introvert.  An introvert recharges by spending time alone, away from other folks.  As you carve out a few minutes here and there, think about what you want to experience this holiday season. Ask yourself:  How do I want to feel? Do you want to be frenzied, stressed and rushed?  Or would you prefer to be energized, loving, calm, peaceful, and connected to your inner wisdom?  When you are aligned with yourself, you are more easily able to connect with your truth and your core desired feelings?

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When being ‘nice’, hurts…


woman-with-head-in-hands.2I didn’t know how to say ‘no’.

Now, I could form the word, make the sound, and I knew what it meant, and even when to use it. But I couldn’t say it for me. It just wouldn’t come out.

It wasn’t ‘nice’.

As I child, I couldn’t say that I was unhappy at school. That I was bored. That I hated how mean the kids were to each other. That I lived in a world of my own imagination, to get away from it. It never occurred to me to say such things. They weren’t ‘nice’. It must be me who was the problem. So, instead I learned to lie. I was ‘fine’…

I didn’t know how to say ‘no’ at 12, when the 15 year old neighbor boy invited me to his house for ice cream, and started touching me in ways I didn’t want. And then took my hand and made me touch him. It wasn’t ‘nice’ to say ‘no’ and walk out. Instead, I walked home for supper that night, feeling dirty and ruined, complicit in my own violation.

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Podcast: Inner Circle Boundaries

Join us today in this free training, as we talk about Inner Circle Boundaries (friends/family/significant others). This is where relationships soar or crumble. Learn what you can do to strengthen your relationships!

Click Here to listen to the training!! 

We  hope you will take a deeper dive into your own Inner Circle Boundaries, by allowing yourself to explore a few of the questions in this week’s blog posts and the podcast. Feel free to leave any thoughts and/or questions in the comments section below.

We invite you to join us as we take on each week’s topic. Next week we are exploring the topic of Outer Circle Boundaries (professional/social). If you are feeling the pull to join us, and to take a deeper look at your boundaries in a safe and fun environment, weencourage reserve your spot today for our

Women’s Boundaries Training & Retreat

November 2nd through 5th!  

Emerald Isle, North Carolina

This is a rare opportunity to work with both of us in a small group setting. We will be staying at the beautiful Pelican House right at the beach and we will enjoy delicious meals prepared for us. The early bird pricing is $647 or bring a friend and you both get 25% off, which is $485.00 each! Price includes accommodations, all meals, plus (weather permitting), we have some wonderful field trips planned to visit the wild ponies of Shackelford Island and a sailing cruise to connect with the wild dolphins of the area.  We are also planning on connecting with local massage therapists and bodyworkers for you to schedule a massage for yourself – optional and not included in the price of the retreat.

We’re gonna have fun and and rock our boundaries in a safe and nurturing environment supported by the natural beauty of the Crystal Coast.  Email support@journeyintobeingretreat.com and reserve your space now!!


From Elizabeth: Inner Circle Boundary Dance


Boy, this is one I’ve learned the hard way! It still requires my focus and intention to stay healthy here…  and there are times I need all the support I can get.

I’ve heard it said that there are three primary motivators for people: power, safety, and affirmation. And for each of us, one of these is hardwired into who we are, as the driver.

I can’t say this is an absolute, but there is a lot of truth in that, and if I were to use that model, I would place myself firmly in the ‘affirmation’ camp.

My core wound and fear, is abandonment. My drive is harmony and relationship.

And I’m not alone by a long shot.

That’s a perfect set up for lousy boundaries with those close in our lives.

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From Elizabeth: Boundary Landscapes


Boundaries mean different things to different people. It can get confusing to know what we mean when we talk about them.

It helps me to categorize the different types of boundaries. I’ve found that I can have good boundaries in one area, but not in another. Recognizing this… and the drivers for each area, help me to see more clearly, what’s happening.

For me, I see 2 main areas that make up the Boundary Landscape:

The first has to do with our dance directly with people:

  • Internal Boundaries (boundaries with ourselves)
  • Personal Relationship Boundaries (friends/family/significant others)
  • Professional Boundaries (working/business)

The second has to do with our dance in the world:

  • how we handle time (ours and others)
  • how we handle space (personal space, relationship space, physical space)
  • how we handle stuff (ours and others)

As you can see… this covers quite a bit of ground, and we can focus in on one area, without recognizing that other areas are causing us pain in our lives.

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From Elizabeth: What do personal (internal) boundaries mean to me?

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What fun!! This is the first week of Kat and I blogging about boundaries. As we get ready to give our Boundaries For Women, Training and Retreat, November 2-5, we’re inviting each of you reading, to join us as we explore this powerful topic!!

I’ll begin with a little bit about me, for those of you who haven’t met me yet. ;)

To the outside world… I’m a life coach, trainer, and facilitator… single mom of 2 amazing (really!!) teenage boys… lifelong horsewomen… writer. I am passionate about growth, development, and supporting people in that process.

Life brings us gifts, both with the good and the bad. I had a very difficult time in my teens and young adulthood; sexual abuse, food addiction, anxiety/depression. Not the kind of ‘gifts’ I would wish on anyone, but it was the catalyst for my own growth, and continues to fuel my belief in our astounding ability to heal and live lives we can love.

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