Kathleen Nelson Troyer

From Kat – Inner Circle Boundary Dances

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 Our Inner Circle Boundaries (ICB’s) explain the primary relationships we have in our lives. The people in our “inner circle” are those closest to us:  Our family of origin, close friends and significant others. Personal Boundaries are complex and consist of both Internal Boundaries (those we have with ourselves), and our Inner Circle Boundaries (our closest relationships).

 Does it surprise you to hear that  the relationship we have with ourselves becomes the foundation for healthy boundaries with others? In order to have a good relationship with ourselves, we have to be able to see our challenges, emotions, needs, wants and desires with some sort of clarity. If we have no self-clarity, or things are hazy, we can’t effectively communicate them to those around us. Since we are imperfect humans, this is not unusual and can cause confusion, hurt feelings and stress..  Being clear about who we are, and being able to effectively communicate those wants, desires and needs, is key to  having strong Inner Circle Boundaries.

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Podcast – Boundary Landscapes

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This week on our podcast we talk about Boundary Landscapes. We share the Boundary Landscape Model and break it down into tangible working parts. We also ask some questions to help you to notice where you are doing well with boundaries and where you might want to focus your attention with some TLC.

 

 

We  hope you will take a deeper dive into your own Boundary Landscapes by allowing yourself to explore a few of the questions in this week’s blog posts and the podcast. Feel free to leave any thoughts and/or questions in the comments section below.

 We invite you to join us as we take on each week’s topic. Next week we are exploring the topic of Personal Boundaries – with our friends, family and romantic relationships.

If you are feeling the pull to join us, and to take a deeper look at your boundaries in a safe and fun environment, weencourage reserve your spot today for our

 Women’s Boundaries Training & Retreat

November 2nd through 5th!  

Emerald Isle, North Carolina

 This is a rare opportunity to work with both of us in a small group setting. We will be staying at the beautiful Pelican House right at the beach and we will enjoy delicious meals prepared for us. The early bird pricing is $647 or bring a friend and you both get 25% off, which is $485.00 each! Price includes accommodations, all meals, plus (weather permitting), we have some wonderful field trips planned to visit the wild ponies of Shackelford Island and a sailing cruise to connect with the wild dolphins of the area.  We are also planning on connecting with local massage therapists and bodyworkers for you to schedule a massage for yourself – optional and not included in the price of the retreat.

 We’re gonna have fun and and we’re gonna rock our boundaries in a safe and nurturing environment supported by the natural beauty of the Crystal Coast.  Email support@journeyintobeingretreat.com and reserve your space now!!

 

 

From Kat: Boundary Landscapes – more context & questions

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Elizabeth and I decided to dive into the topic of Boundary Landscapes because we both work with many clients on some component of this concept.  Boundaries are the most common area where people can get tripped up in their lives. One of the things that I know for sure is that the places where we stumble, or are repeatedly challenged, are opportunities for us to grow and learn. The Boundary Landscapes are fertile ground for experiential learning.

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This week’s podcast: What keeps us from having good boundaries?

This week we are exploring: What keeps us from having good boundaries.  You can read Elizabeth’s post here and Kat’s post here.  Listen in on the podcast as we discuss our thoughts.

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We invite you to join us as we take on each week’s topic. If you are feeling the pull to join us, and to take a deeper look at your boundaries in a safe and fun environment, we encourage you to reach out to us to learn more about our training and to reserve your spot today!  This is a rare opportunity to work with both of us in a small group setting. We will be staying at the beautiful Pelican House right at the beach and we will enjoy delicious meals prepared for us. The early bird pricing is $697 and that includes accommodations, all meals, plus (weather permitting), we have some wonderful field trips planned to visit the wild ponies of Shackelford Island and a sailing cruise to connect with the wild dolphins of the area.  We are also planning on connecting with local massage therapists and bodyworkers for you to schedule a massage for yourself – optional and not included in the price of the retreat.

We’re gonna have fun and and we’re gonna rock our boundaries in a safe and nurturing environment supported by the natural beauty of the Crystal Coast.  Email support@journeyintobeingretreat.com and reserve your space now!!

From Kat: What keeps us from having good boundaries?

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What keeps us from having healthy boundaries is complex and individual. Creating healthy boundaries is always an ongoing process, both personally and professionally. I grew up with fuzzy boundaries that haunted me well into my 20’s.  As an adult I’ve learned how to align my boundaries with my values. As a result, I consciously strive to have healthy boundaries and clear agreements in my life.

I have learned not to assume what other people think and feel having follow up conversations is key when agreements and boundaries need to be re-negotiated. In my post last week I shared my experience with adrenal exhaustion , which led me to re-examine all the boundaries in my life. I am just now understanding what a gift this health challenge ended up being. My own learning continues to unfold. I became more aligned and congruent, and my boundaries also became easier to navigate.

When I was first diagnosed with adrenal exhaustion, I thought I already mastered strong boundaries in my life.

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